Wednesday, June 26, 2013

Practice Makes Perfect





According to the Bible, we are to “train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”  We have always believed this to be true.  We were intentional when the kids were young in finding out what God-given talents and gifts with which they had been blessed, and in trying our best to encourage activities which would help them to develop their gifts.  All three kids were athletic,  so one of the things we trained them up in was baseball/softball.

One of my favorite “Tribal Tales” is about Jesse and me practicing baseball.  This story usually resurfaces during each baseball season (and my boys play pretty much year round:  spring, summer, and fall).  You would not think there would be much to tell.  Practicing anything is just not typically all that interesting.  But this particular practice time was quite memorable.

I can recall this day like it was yesterday.  The sky was crystal blue.  The emerald green grass had just been cut and smelled like heaven.  The perfectly straight, bright, white lines marked off foul territory.  The field on which our oldest son, Beau, was playing baseball sits pristine on the banks of the Cumberland River just outside of Nashville, Tennessee.  There was a crisp, cool breeze blowing.  It was absolutely perfect baseball weather.

Jesse, our youngest son, was seven; Beau was eighteen.  The three of us had made the trek into the city.  Over the years I tried to never miss a baseball game when one of my boys was playing.  My husband had a commitment that morning, so I had to take Jesse with me.  I knew he would be bored since Beau’s team played a double header, nine innings each, every weekend.  I grabbed Jesse’s baseball gear and my glove and threw it in the back of my van.  I did not really want to play that day; I just wanted to watch Beau’s games.  But I brought Jesse’s bag just in case.

The baseball park where Beau’s games were scheduled actually has two baseball diamonds.  One was perfectly manicured and kept up.  The other was used as a practice field and was usually in pretty bad shape.

Beau’s team was in the first base dugout.  Jesse and I sat in the bleachers with our backs to the practice field watching the game.  We watched until about the fifth inning.  And then, predictably, Jesse got bored.  I could find no logical argument to have him sit with me any longer.  I had already bought him a coke.  He ate a hot dog.  I even went back to get nachos for him.  He was full of baseball food and simply refused to sit still.

So, I told him to run back to the van and get his baseball bag and gear.  I asked him to grab my softball glove as well.  His face lit up.  He loved to play baseball.  He ran off at light speed across the grass, then the sidewalk, and into the parking lot to my car.  He opened the hatch and grabbed all the baseball stuff.  Then, he ran back to me as fast as his little legs would carry him.

We went out onto the practice field behind us.  We set down the gear in the third base dugout, so that I could still keep any eye on Beau’s game on the field immediately to my left.  I hated missing anytime the kids were up to bat.

I walked to home plate with a few baseballs, a bat, and my glove.  Jesse grabbed his fielder’s mitt, his baseball hat, and ran out to play short stop.

We started relaxed.  I hit him an easy grounder, right to him.  He fielded it and threw it to me at home.   I tossed the ball up again, and hit it directly at him, on the ground, for a second time.  And again.  Then again. This slower pace continued for nearly five minutes.  Then, I told him that I was going to start hitting it a little bit harder, which I did.  So, now the rhythm and pace increased.  I am still hitting it straight to him, but we were moving at a much quicker clip.  He was doing great.  He could totally keep up with the faster pace and cleanly fielded each grounder.

Since he was having no trouble with the ground balls that were hit to him, I decided to start hitting them to his left and to his right in hopes of getting his feet moving and increasing his range.  He kept up with no problem.  So, I increased the pace and the speed of the hit.  By this time, I am drilling the ball at him over and over again.  He was getting grounders, line drives, to his left, to his right and as fast as I could get the ball out of my glove.  He was playing his position perfectly; nothing got by him. 

Beau’s game was in between innings and I was completely unaware that Beau’s teammates had been distracted by Jesse and me practicing baseball.  They were now watching our field.  Jesse did not seem to notice either, so I kept going increasing velocity and really drilling some infield fundamental plays.

Then I heard one of Beau’s teammates laugh and comment, “Hey guys, look at that mom and kid over there.  She is really drilling that ball hard at him.”

Another player joined in, “My mom never played ball with me like that.  Can you imagine what a great infielder I would be if she had?”

Still another cackled and said, “I cannot believe how hard she is hitting the ball and how fast it is coming at the poor little kid.  But he makes the play every time.”

By this time, I was pretty amused at their comments.  I really had not thought of how hard and fast I was drilling the ball at my little seven year old. 

The guys were really cutting up and so I turned and looked in their direction and smiled at Beau.  The players noticed.  Amused, Beau replied, “Yeah, she used to run baseball drills with me, at first base, just like that, up until I started playing high school ball.  So I know exactly what he’s going through.” 

The baseball players exploded with laughter, and one guy said, “Oh my gosh, that’s your mom, Beau?”  Another chimed in, “Well no wonder you play first base like you do!”  And they continued to laugh, tease, and give Beau a pretty hard time until the next inning started.

Jesse never knew that what he and I were doing that Saturday morning may be different from his friends and their moms were doing on that very same day.  But that was just how things were in our family.  We practiced and drilled and trained until we got it right.  Because you know, as the saying goes . . . “practice makes perfect.”

Thursday, June 20, 2013

Henry Miller's 11 Commandments of Writing




The Daily Routines of Famous Writers

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“A writer who waits for ideal conditions under which to work will die without putting a word on paper.”  E.B. White

An excerpt that inspired me:  

"In 1932, under a section titled Daily Routine, Henry Miller footnotes his 11 commandments of writing with this wonderful blueprint for productivity, inspiration, and mental health:
MORNINGS:
If groggy, type notes and allocate, as stimulus.

If in fine fettle, write.
AFTERNOONS:
Work of section in hand, following plan of section scrupulously. No intrusions, no diversions. Write to finish one section at a time, for good and all.
EVENINGS:
See friends. Read in cafés.
Explore unfamiliar sections — on foot if wet, on bicycle if dry.
Write, if in mood, but only on Minor program.
Paint if empty or tired.
Make Notes. Make Charts, Plans. Make corrections of MS.
Note: Allow sufficient time during daylight to make an occasional visit to museums or an occasional sketch or an occasional bike ride. Sketch in cafés and trains and streets. Cut the movies! Library for references once a week."
As well, Miller's 11 Commandments:

COMMANDMENTS
  1. Work on one thing at a time until finished.
  2. Start no more new books, add no more new material to ‘Black Spring.’
  3. Don’t be nervous. Work calmly, joyously, recklessly on whatever is in hand.
  4. Work according to Program and not according to mood. Stop at the appointed time!
  5. When you can’t create you can work.
  6. Cement a little every day, rather than add new fertilizers.
  7. Keep human! See people, go places, drink if you feel like it.
  8. Don’t be a draught-horse! Work with pleasure only.
  9. Discard the Program when you feel like it—but go back to it next day. Concentrate. Narrow down. Exclude.
  10. Forget the books you want to write. Think only of the book you are writing.
  11. Write first and always. Painting, music, friends, cinema, all these come afterwards.

Tuesday, June 4, 2013

Life Altering Events







The relationships that we make in high school are special.  I have a handful of friends that I have kept in contact with over the years. (Facebook has made it much easier.)  But for the most part, we lose touch with so many individuals that we swore we would never forget at graduation.  But time marches on.  This past Friday night my life was completely altered again at a high school graduation ceremony.  In the Agriculture Exposition Center in Franklin, Tennessee, I witnessed my youngest son, Jesse, graduate from Fairview High School.



While it is true that my life is changed for as long as I live, Jesse’s future is far more impacted than mine.  He is evermore transformed from that singularly special event.  He is now an adult.  He is completely responsible for the choices that he will make, for the career he will select, for the friends he maintains relationships with, and for his entire future.  This is such a huge life transition point for him.



At his graduation, there were the traditional speeches from the Principal, the Salutatorian and the Valedictorian.  The students receiving scholarships were recognized by the guidance counselors.  The names of the graduates were read as they crossed the stage shaking hands with all the dignitaries.   Pictures were taken, proud families cheered when their student crossed the platform, tassels were moved, and caps were thrown.



We did not have any famous guest VIPs or fireworks after the ceremony.  We had a modest “cookies and punch” reception, not a banquet.  The students picked up their diplomas after the ceremony in the most disorganized, chaotic mob I have ever seen.  As far as high school graduations go, there was nothing necessarily extraordinary about the evening - Except one thing:  The Fairview High School class of 2013; Jesse’s classmates; his friends.



Jesse graduated with some very accomplished young men and women:  National Merit Scholars, state record holders in their respective sports, JAG State Champions, video award winning filmmakers, and the list goes on and on.  Collectively, they scored 2 points higher on average on the TN State ACT than any other class at FVHS before.



But even that is not what makes these young men and women so special.  Jesse graduated with his best, closest friends.  There are a dozen or so seniors (and 2 juniors) who are a very close and tightly knit group. You never see them without another from their group.  Let me clarify though:  it is not really a clique.  These students are individually friends with all 140 other students in their graduating class.  It’s really a cohesive group.  They have taken school spirit to a new level.



Jesse’s friends are loyal, encouraging, giving, involved, leaders, creative, talented, athletic, and loving.  Yes, loving.  If you ask them, they will easily admit that they love one another.  In fact, I overheard Jesse getting off the phone with one of the guys and he said, “Ok, I love you, bye.”  I laughed because that’s what I always say to my kids.  And so I asked, “Did you accidentally say that to Trey?”  Jesse replied, “No, we all have decided to say that whenever we get off a call.”  I was astounded.



Black, white, Christian, Mormon, atheist, rich, poor; this group is one.  These kids play together as teammates on sports teams.  They act together in the school’s rendition of “Annie.”  They build award winning Homecoming Parade floats four years in a row.  They have more school spirit than any other class and they are as involved in school as much as possible while still maintaining exceptional grades.



I believe that Jesse would lay down his life for any one of his friends.  And I know without a doubt that they would do the same for him.



At our house, we tease Jesse that he is never home.  Because he isn’t.  He is nearly always with his friends either at school or youth group at church or playing guitar or Sonic or Trey’s house.  And he isn’t out with one friend, he’s out with six or seven.  They roam our little town day or night in small groups usually doing good or helping someone.  They are amazing teens!



It is not our high school’s tradition to offer a Baccalaureate service a week or so before graduation.  I don’t ever remember that being an option.  But this group of kids wanted a religious service prior to graduation, so they got permission and planned it themselves . . . it was such a special service!



At the Baccalaureate service, their English teacher spoke in introduction of those seniors who had the greatest impact this year.  I think she listed every single student in some capacity.  And when she was moved to tears talking about how special these specific teens are, she made me cry too!  And I had not cried a tear at all leading up to that service.



I’m not sad, really!  I am extremely excited for Jesse and his future.  I’m thrilled that he and 13 of his classmates are attending University of Tennessee in Chattanooga this fall.  I love that he will be majoring in finance and accounting (at least that’s the plan for now).  I am relieved that he is great friends with all three of his roommates – he’s known one of them since 6th grade.  His future looks bright and I’m so happy for him.  So why would I cry?



It hit me at the Baccalaureate service.  The reason that I would cry is because he will likely never again have the kind of friendships that he has now.  I know that he will keep a few of them on into college and he’ll always be best friends with Trey until they are 80 year old senior citizens.  But some of his very closest friends will be moving to Utah, Indiana, and Oklahoma and still others will attend different TN colleges.  He may never see some of his friends again.  This season of amazing friendships is coming to an end for him and I’m grieving that loss.  So . . . that’s the reason for my tears.



The graduation of my youngest son changed my life forever, to be sure.  But the friendships that he has had all through high school have tremendously impacted him and molded the man he will be for the rest of his life.

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